Anyone else think single mom scholarships are unfair?
It really makes me angry that a LARGE majority of college scholarships for mothers that are in school are only for single-mothers… One of my friends and I applied for the same scholarship…. originally I won the scholarship then they took it back saying I couldn’t be awarded the scholarship because I was married… yet my friend who is a little bit on the “easy” side decided to make irresponsible choices and get drunk and sleep with random people and then fall pregnant gets rewarded with the scholarship they were going to give me?!?!?!??
Anyone else think this is unfair? Its not like my husband is bringing in a ton of money… hes a full-time college student as well.. but it just doesn’t seem fair that they dont even consider “live-in-boyfriends” as disqualifying for the award…
I understand if the mom is truely a single mom so I don’t mean to offend any single moms out there.. I just hate that they took away the award from me because I’m legally married.. yet she has a live-in-boyfriend who works full-time and provides for their family just like my husband its just we are “legal” so I am disqualified and she gets it!
EDIT::: Yes she did tell them about her BF but they aren’t legally married so she is considered “single”… I should have rephrased my question.. I agree single mom scholarships are GREAT for those that DON’T have a “fake” husband aka a boyfriend that does everything a husband would just without the paperwork
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13 comments
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
No. I don’t think it’s unfair….it’s unfair when they are abused (live in boyfriends) but I think it’s great they help single mom’s go to college if they really need it…….
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
I understand where you’re coming from.
They had good intentions when creating those types of scholarships, but it always seems like someone gets jipped. And people lie about their qualifications. I bet there are other scholarships and forms of financial aid you would qualify for! Good luck.
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
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Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
Honestly? No. It’s not unfair. Theres scholarships for practically everything out there. My uncle got a scholarship for being indian. You just have to look around..
Single moms most of the time need more help. I highly doubt any of them ASKED or planned to be a single mom, and it’s nice to have some help out there for us. Most of us are doing this on our own, and it’s nice to have the opportunity for an education.
I work 2 jobs, and I go to a private school. I’m on scholarships because of my academics.. but it’s nice to have help. It’s not like they’re doing anything wrong by going to school. They can’t take the scholarship and cash it in for money to spend on other stuff.
Not unfair, it’s life.
HOWEVER, If it’s abused, yes it’s unfair..
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
Yes actually I do. It makes me sick when people try to do things in the right order and yet get “punished” for it because you’re not “high risk”. When I gradated from hs (3yrs ago). I was actually asked if I was a single mom- for scholarships. Of course now my county has a special high school for “at risk” teens, which the majority is teen moms, they even have a babysitter for their kids (that they don’t pay for), the other percent are kids who probably wouldn’t graduate hs if they didn’t lower the amount of credits they have to have (21, I had to have from normal hs 27 to graduate with the possibility of getting 32). I think it’s ridiculous how much society bends over backwards for people who made bad decisions, like your friend.
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
no
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
I think it is unfair. This society seems to benefit those who are irresponsible and punish those who do the right thing. All we end up doing is promoting a vicious cycle of rewarding those who don’t take responsiblity for themselves.
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
as with many things in life it boils down to money…some scholarships are created in hopes that it will better the odds that the people will get a job and or not be a burden on the “system” keep looking for other forms of help with money you need for college and be proud of what you are doing…..
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
No—truly single moms—that is, no boyfriends to pay support or “baby daddy” who “dates” them and gives unofficial financial support, have the hardest shoes to fill. I think they DESERVE something to HELP them out just a LITTLE, don’t you??
but, yes, your friend is leeching off the system b/c she has a live-in bf, who’s basically her husband, who supports her and I’m assuming her child. Even though it doesn’t sound like he’s the father, he’s basically playing the role of her husband. So yes, that IS unfair. But for a truly single mom to get it, no, that’s not unfair.
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
I don’t find those scholarships unfair. Lots of single mums do need the extra help. After all, they are single, which means they have to pay for everything themselves. They don’t have a partner to help them with everyday expenses. And college is expensive to pay for by yourself while still providing for your kids.
I do find it unfair that they will accept people who have a boyfriend/girlfriend living with them to help out with finances though. There are lots of mums out there who have no help at all that would have deserved that scholarship a lot more than your friend.
I don’t consider someone a single mum if they are in a relationship, married or not, so your friend should have been disqualified as well. Did she tell them about her boyfriend?
EDIT: Really? They knew she has help and still gave it to her? Then yes, that is unfair. A mum is not single if her boyfriend lives with her and helps support her. I’m not married, but I’m also not single. I live with and am in a relationship the father of my child
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
That’s a hard topic. I think everyone should have help to an education if that’s what they want to do. If its abused like that tho, I then think its unfair its just life tho and Im sure its happening everyday.
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Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
No i don’t think it is unfair!
Brian Hackett on January 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm
you should be happy for your friend because you have a little added security that your home will remain together while her or her boyfriend could easily decide that they dont feel like supporting the other and bail.
you cant make a ho a housewife and although marriage is never a sure thing, you probably have a better chance at living happily ever after.